Surviving in the 21st Century is definitely quite a skill! There's so much to know and do and learn, and if that's not enough, not only do we have to live in the 'real' world, but we also have to survive in the online world! Never in our ancestor's wildest dreams would they have contemplated that life could get so complicated.
But here we are....alive and well, (or not so well maybe) in 2018, doing our darnedest to stay ahead of the game and put on our best face for our family, our boss, our friends, our workmates, our ex, and, for heavens sake, all our social media profiles! Phew! No wonder life gets complicated.
As women, we hold down a job; we raise our kids, being Mum, nurse, teacher, counsellor, good cop, bad cop, and various other roles for them; we are best friend and lover to our spouse; we are the manager of our home; the bookkeeper of our finances; we wash, we cook, we mow the grass (well, some do); and many of us have active social media profiles that require regular updating with the last perfect picture of the perfect meal we whipped up in 15 minutes for our family. Seriously, it has all become too complicated.
So many women are spending too much time scrolling through the social media pages of their latest hero and role model, (who might be 20 or 30 years younger), only to find themselves feeling less than adequate because their face displays the lines of laughter and wisdom that only comes with the decades of life.
We live in a time where false expectations are subtly placed on each of us through the power of advertising, the internet, and social media. We compare the worst of ourselves with the best of others, and 99% of the time, we come off second best. All this does is create anxiety and levels of stress that lead to ill health and dis-ease. The demands of this fake world we live in can never be fully met in our lifetime, as short or as long as our days may be on this planet.
What I'm trying to say is this.....each of us needs, for the sake of our health and sanity, to learn to live in the now.
Sometimes dealing with anxiety can be as simple as bringing your mind back to the present moment and focusing on what is going on around you at that time. Learning to live one day at a time, one hour at a time, one moment at a time, is good for a cluttered, anxious and stressed mind, and is the first step to bringing healing to a stress-ravaged body. The human brain is not equipped to live in the past, present and future simultaneously....this is what creates stress and anxiety. It can only deal effectively with the present.
You need to stop what you are doing, often, and look around at where you are, who you are with, and what you have, and say a quick prayer of gratitude. Trying to live up to false expectations, and comparing yourself with others is not a healthy way to live life. Learning to be in the moment, grateful for the very breath in your lungs and for the people in your life who love you and care about you, is one of the most powerful and basic things you can do to live a healthy life.
When I think about all the lovely clients I have helped over the years who have had stress-related issues, I can honestly say that the physical symptoms of stress are a byproduct of what has taken place in their mind first. Dealing with incorrect thought patterns is the very large, and very first step in healing the body of stress.
Let's start to really live....today.
Peace and blessings,